But what does it really mean to be a patriarch, to lead your tribe. Sorry, but it just isn't worth it. Its not only adultry.
My husband is a surgical oncologist. I tiptoed into my current relationship with a medical student dating two years, med school is almost overand one of the first things I brought up when he was pursuing me and he pursued me HARD was that I would not be the kind of person that would date a doctor. So when our children bring home a potential mate that has cultural, racial, religious or other big differences then our child, our concerns immediately flare up. This also implies, there is no reason for me to further my education or career because he would prefer I have children immediately. That said, there are also a lot of pricks inside the church, who fully deserve membership. I do know other doctors who have more balance but take a cold hard look at what your life will be like if your man is married to medicine. I don't want to stress him. There's a different kind of balance, but that doesn't mean that there's no balance. These insane hours are wearing on me and I fear what has happened to so many I know will start to happen to us. When out on a date with a Mormon guy or girl, be very decent, courteous, and well-mannered.
My experience has been that personal similarities and differences are a bigger element than cultural differences. Little did I know that at least some of these "emergencies" were actually rendezvous with his affair partner. For men, this will likely come after completing your mission trip, so in your early 20s at the earliest. You have to choose what's right for you, but you have to figure it out. Do you have any specific suggestions for discussion about content on LDS.
You are brave and good people and seem to be raising wonderful children who will be lights for everyone with whom they come in contact. We have lunch and have each others undivided attention while the kids are at school. That's just too high a price to pay. But I could make it very romantic indeed.